在古希腊神话中，人原是拥有4支胳臂4条腿的物种，后因企图挑战天神，而被宙斯一分为二。从此，人就为 了寻找失去的“另一半”而忙，也为了这个缘故，古往今来，人们都在被一个共同的“情”字折磨。撇开神话不说，弗洛姆认为那是因为大家对爱的艺术有三个认知 上的错误。第一.把自己置于爱的被动地位。总是问“我被爱了吗？”，而不自问是否有能力去爱人；第二.把爱凌驾在对象之上，从而否认了爱本身的能动力量。 认为爱最重要的就是需要有对象，而忽略了爱情本身的难度；第三.无法区分堕入爱河和意乱情迷。
爱是长相厮守吗？是曾经拥有吗？是那枚钻戒吗？是那句“我愿意”吗？是不嫉妒、不自夸吗？是凡事包容、凡事相信、凡事盼望、凡事忍耐吗？瞎子摸象，也是，也不是。
认真去想的话，爱是什么其实谁也讲不清楚。既然讲不清楚，那又应该如何去爱呢？或许采用删除法会是不错 的尝试。首先，用狂热的激情真能体现爱情的价值吗？每辆车上插根小国旗，跟文革时期人手一册小红书到底有什么不同？历史早为无知定论，却始终有人乐此不 疲。那正是弗洛姆指出的分不清什么是意乱情迷和堕入爱河。若认真要去爱一个人，狂风暴雨绝对不及细水长流来得持久。天天发动“红玫瑰攻势”，你不腻，对方 也腻；对方不腻，观众也腻。
五个要素
再说，爱情依靠条件吗？国学大师唐君毅写过一本令人意外的小书《爱情之福音》，书中有很好的描述。爱情 应该是超越条件的，不过，没有条件，你也不可能去爱。唐先生说：“异性之条件之拴住你的心，如同一根绳子把牛拴在树下吃草，但爱情生活在吃草，不在被绳子 拴在树上。”这主次关系必须分清楚。
在资本主义社会，什么事情都被消费意识所蒙蔽了。讲什么值不值得、配不配，基本上都是以交换价值为前提的现代消费特征。也难怪肯尼迪总统要呼吁：“不要问国家为你做了什么，问你为国家做了什么？”
别再互相追问到底谁比较爱谁了吧！爱的艺术是门大学问，假如相信弗洛姆的理论，那事情还得回到自身。如 果是珍惜它的，面对一份爱情，不论对象是人还是国家，问问自己是否齐备了这五个要素：给予、关心、责任、尊重、了解。当然，齐备了也不意味着无往不利，但 至少已经尽心尽力，无愧于天地良心了。
柏拉图的《会饮篇》把爱情形容为美和善的不朽结合，实在是美事一桩。然而，假如大家继续算计得失，这关系只怕永远不可能搞好。
最起码，在忍无可忍决定挥剑断情丝之前，抱持这种态度去爱还是正确的，而且也是很应该的。
Wednesday, June 27, 2007
Monday, June 18, 2007
My delicious dinner / supper
Deep fried chicken nuggets with chilli sauce dip
Udon noodle with crabmeat stick, meat ball & egg
tomyam kwayteow with crabmeat stick, chicken meat ball and egg
Cheesey sausageFriday, June 15, 2007
性感绝招 用撩人眼神电死他
1.赚很多钱无数调查认为，女人一直以来追求的两样东西就是美貌和金钱。如果非要她们二选一不可的 话，她们一定会选金钱，我非常反对这片面说法。所以向男人们寻求答案(所调查的男人从18岁到80岁都有)，令人尴尬的是，这些男人说他们见到的80%的 女性都是这样的。但是我宁愿相信女人贪财这种说法是源自古老的童话(那男人因为爱她而拼命努力工作，出人头地，挣了更多的钱，让她过上了好日子)，也不愿 意承认这是源于女人的贪婪。
提示：钱是万恶之源……。
2.让他对你充满遐想
无论男人还是女人都是对性爱着迷的物种，任何东西只要能联想到情爱，我们就会继续想下去。女性丰满、圆 润的朱唇会对男人产生诱惑，还有一些食物的形状，都会在潜意识里刺激突发遐想的男女。记得睡眼惺忪的样子永远不会过时(我们也希望自己喜欢的人能有这样一 副神态——当然是和我们在一起时)。同样，一张清新的脸庞会看起来很漂亮。清爽、干净的肌肤、炯炯有神的眼睛、年轻的面容、丰满的嘴唇、挺直的鼻梁、美丽 的身材。继而，我们就可能会想到有关情爱的问题。我们当然知道，我们的职责之一就是让地球上的种群继续繁衍下去。
提示：偶尔对他眯着双眼，像睡眼惺忪，春情上脸。
3.走起路来要灵活
走路时除了扭动的美臀（不美别扭）以及保持特定的姿势以外，还有一点也至关重要：灵活。灵活可以让你看起来年轻——这是让你瞬间性感的绝妙方法。
提示：如果臀是你的强项，就要施展它吧！
4.乐于向爱人展示自己
很少有人喜欢赤裸身体到处走来走去，并为之感到骄傲。但无可否认，没有什么比爱人的赤裸身体更加性感了。该脱时能马上愉快地向爱人炫耀身体才是最性感的。不要总是将性感的身体隐藏在衣服下面，不能正视自己的身体的人是欠自信的。记住，暴露和滥交，不是性感。
提示：放松，记住“自己才是最性感的”是你变得性感的关键。
5.让自己的眼神性感起来
最性感的眼神是一次在餐厅里，我对面那个男人的眼神。他眼睛向上看的时候无意中看到了我，开始和我对 视。他向后靠了靠，放下手里的刀叉，用目光盯着我。我微微一笑，将我的目光完全吸引到他的嘴上，这时他用牙咬住下嘴唇，然后轻轻地放开，我的目光又回到了 他的眼睛上，这时我也笑了。这笑容并不是说：“我想认识你”；也不是在表达：“我知道你在看我”。这是一种有情调的眼神，是一种“能让对方销魂的笑”。即 使他没有碰我，在我看到他眼神的时候还是觉得非常舒服，非常开心，这是一种怎样的享受啊！
提示：学习性感美女的眼神是怎样的，或创造独具自己风格及个性的动作及创造出属于自己的性感眼神，与对方眼神交流。
Thursday, June 7, 2007
7 Secrets of Success
I found the answer in my room:-
Roof said : Aim High
Fan said : Be Cool
Clock said : Every minute is precious
Mirror said : Reflect before you act
Window said : See the world
Calender said : Be up-to-date
Door said : Push hard to achieve your goals
Roof said : Aim High
Fan said : Be Cool
Clock said : Every minute is precious
Mirror said : Reflect before you act
Window said : See the world
Calender said : Be up-to-date
Door said : Push hard to achieve your goals
Monday, June 4, 2007
CONVERSATION BY LANGUAGE ~Barrier~?
An Arab was interviewed at the US Embassy for a U.S.A. Visa.
Consul : What is your name?
Arab: Abdul Aziz
Consul: Sex?
Arab : Six to ten times a week
Consul: I mean, male or female?
Arab : both male and female and sometimes even camels
Consul: Holy cow!
Arab : Yes, cows and dogs too!!!!
Consul: Man,...isn ' t it hostile?
Arab :Horse style, dog style, any style
Consul: Oh...dear!
Arab : Deer? No deer, they run too fast!
Consul : What is your name?
Arab: Abdul Aziz
Consul: Sex?
Arab : Six to ten times a week
Consul: I mean, male or female?
Arab : both male and female and sometimes even camels
Consul: Holy cow!
Arab : Yes, cows and dogs too!!!!
Consul: Man,...isn ' t it hostile?
Arab :Horse style, dog style, any style
Consul: Oh...dear!
Arab : Deer? No deer, they run too fast!
Friday, June 1, 2007
Vacancy for the post of friend
Fu-yoh!! nowadays friendster plays an important role for multi-purpose sake!
got such thing as vacancy for post of friend..tackle girls, out sourcing suppliers, sourcing for good looking bf, look for lesbo / gay, job vacancies..etc.
oh my fucking god! besides i received few of lesbo email , i got a hillarious email as well. please read as follows:-
got such thing as vacancy for post of friend..tackle girls, out sourcing suppliers, sourcing for good looking bf, look for lesbo / gay, job vacancies..etc.
oh my fucking god! besides i received few of lesbo email , i got a hillarious email as well. please read as follows:-
WHY EMPLOYEES LEAVE ORGANISATIONS ?
Got this article from a friend...good to share among..
Every company faces the problem of people leaving the company for better pay or profile.
Early this year, Mark, a senior software designer, got an offer from a prestigious international firm to work in its India operations developing specialized software. He was thrilled by the offer.
He had heard a lot about the CEO. The salary was great. The company had all the right systems in place employee-friendly human resources (HR) policies, a spanking new office,and the very best technology,even a canteen that served superb food.
Twice Mark was sent abroad for training. "My learning curve is the sharpest it's ever been," he said soon after he joined.
Last week, less than eight months after he joined, Mark walked out of the job.
Why did this talented employee leave ?
Arun quit for the same reason that drives many good people away.
The answer lies in one of the largest studies undertaken by the Gallup Organization. The study surveyed over a million employees and 80,000 managers and was published in a book called "First Break All The Rules". It came up with this surprising finding:
If you're losing good people, look to their immediate boss.Immediate boss is the reason people stay and thrive in an organization. And he 's the reason why people leave. When people leave they take knowledge,experienc-e and contacts with them, straight to the competition.
"People leave managers not companies," write the authors Marcus Buckingham and Curt Coffman.
Mostly manager drives people away?
HR experts say that of all the abuses, employees find humiliation the most intolerable. The first time, an employee may not leave,but a thought has been planted. The second time, that thought gets strengthened. The third time, he looks for another job.
When people cannot retort openly in anger, they do so by passive aggression. By digging their heels in and slowing down. By doing only what they are told to do and no more. By omitting to give the boss crucial information. Dev says: "If you work for a jerk, you basically want to get him into trouble. You don 't have your heart and soul in the job."
Different managers can in different ways - by being too controlling, too suspicious,too pushy, too critical, but they forget that workers are not fixed assets, they are free agents. When this goes on too long, an employee will quit - often over a trivial issue.
Talented men leave. Dead wood doesn't.
"Jack Welch of GE once said. A company's value lies "between the ears of its employees".
By Azim Premji, CEO- Wipro
Every company faces the problem of people leaving the company for better pay or profile.
Early this year, Mark, a senior software designer, got an offer from a prestigious international firm to work in its India operations developing specialized software. He was thrilled by the offer.
He had heard a lot about the CEO. The salary was great. The company had all the right systems in place employee-friendly human resources (HR) policies, a spanking new office,and the very best technology,even a canteen that served superb food.
Twice Mark was sent abroad for training. "My learning curve is the sharpest it's ever been," he said soon after he joined.
Last week, less than eight months after he joined, Mark walked out of the job.
Why did this talented employee leave ?
Arun quit for the same reason that drives many good people away.
The answer lies in one of the largest studies undertaken by the Gallup Organization. The study surveyed over a million employees and 80,000 managers and was published in a book called "First Break All The Rules". It came up with this surprising finding:
If you're losing good people, look to their immediate boss.Immediate boss is the reason people stay and thrive in an organization. And he 's the reason why people leave. When people leave they take knowledge,experienc-e and contacts with them, straight to the competition.
"People leave managers not companies," write the authors Marcus Buckingham and Curt Coffman.
Mostly manager drives people away?
HR experts say that of all the abuses, employees find humiliation the most intolerable. The first time, an employee may not leave,but a thought has been planted. The second time, that thought gets strengthened. The third time, he looks for another job.
When people cannot retort openly in anger, they do so by passive aggression. By digging their heels in and slowing down. By doing only what they are told to do and no more. By omitting to give the boss crucial information. Dev says: "If you work for a jerk, you basically want to get him into trouble. You don 't have your heart and soul in the job."
Different managers can in different ways - by being too controlling, too suspicious,too pushy, too critical, but they forget that workers are not fixed assets, they are free agents. When this goes on too long, an employee will quit - often over a trivial issue.
Talented men leave. Dead wood doesn't.
"Jack Welch of GE once said. A company's value lies "between the ears of its employees".
By Azim Premji, CEO- Wipro
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